You think that you failed. You think you are not OK.
Your baby cries, your house is a mess, your thoughts are crazy. And you do not actually care. And then you become obsessed with the idea and then it lost the importance again.
You cry with no reason and you feel total useless.
Nothing happens in a way you wanted. Nobody can help.
I met a few parents who battle this illness. And I found one thing that nobody tells you. You are ill and you are either looked down or treated a mentally unstable person. If you are lucky, you are just treated ill.
So here is what I have to tell you.
Before I tell this, I need to claim that I do not have PND and any other type of illness or weakness.
Whatever happens in your life, in your everyday life, it happens to me as well.
My baby is not different from you. And I am not a better person than you.
You are normal. Your emotions mess with you. It happens to all of us every now and then. And while I understand that for you it is a condition, I want you to feel respected and accepted. Your reaction to becoming a mother is OK. Crying is OK. Having bad emotions, big emotions, negative feelings is OK. You have the right to be not OK.
I find being a mother is hard. It is not harder for me or harder for you. It is just hard.
While I do not have to suffer and struggle, I do not have extra fights every day with myself, I still have my own battles. And I find it hard.
So here is what I have to tell you:
You are much stronger than me.
You are much braver than me.
You do much more to live a happy life than me.
Be proud because you will get over it and you can tell that you did it!
with love,
Mariann x
Your baby cries, your house is a mess, your thoughts are crazy. And you do not actually care. And then you become obsessed with the idea and then it lost the importance again.
You cry with no reason and you feel total useless.
Nothing happens in a way you wanted. Nobody can help.
I met a few parents who battle this illness. And I found one thing that nobody tells you. You are ill and you are either looked down or treated a mentally unstable person. If you are lucky, you are just treated ill.
So here is what I have to tell you.
Before I tell this, I need to claim that I do not have PND and any other type of illness or weakness.
Whatever happens in your life, in your everyday life, it happens to me as well.
My baby is not different from you. And I am not a better person than you.
You are normal. Your emotions mess with you. It happens to all of us every now and then. And while I understand that for you it is a condition, I want you to feel respected and accepted. Your reaction to becoming a mother is OK. Crying is OK. Having bad emotions, big emotions, negative feelings is OK. You have the right to be not OK.
I find being a mother is hard. It is not harder for me or harder for you. It is just hard.
While I do not have to suffer and struggle, I do not have extra fights every day with myself, I still have my own battles. And I find it hard.
So here is what I have to tell you:
You are much stronger than me.
You are much braver than me.
You do much more to live a happy life than me.
Be proud because you will get over it and you can tell that you did it!
with love,
Mariann x